Lets Talk About Boys:
I’ve been thinking a lot a lot about homo-sex and our homo qualifications of sexual identity, what defines us as men, and how we express that. Dane has me thinking about this, mostly because of his brilliant grindr profile.
There seems to be a prominent, more accepted, and sexually arousing male archetype everyone flocks to. “Well, I’m a man, I like men.” seems to be said with this disdain, like not every male with a penis isn’t a MAN. Sure, I’m sexually attracted to men, but i don’t think there should be a clear distinction between MEN and the Sissy Boy.
I’ve heard this on numerous occasions: “No, I probably wouldn’t date him, he’s too Fem for me.” Which INFURIATES the hell out of me. We aren’t just men, we are Gay Men, we not only get to have sex with other men, we get to have an entirely new set of rules, an entirely different way of showing off our sexuality. That’s our interplay, this beautiful grey area between what everyone else considers masculine and feminine. Even our sex has this glorious interplay, we get to top AND bottom, how awesome is that?
I’m not putting down the Homo-Manly-Man by any means, there’s a place for the “hetero-normative” homo, but how we view it is backwards. The Fem Boy, the Bottom Boy, the Sissy Boy is the most manly. The boys that are viewed as Fem have more balls to walk out in heels and live their life. And that’s sexy. A sexy man flirts with the idea of femininity and doesn’t put down guys for being “too gay”.
I’m done hearing “straight-acting”, fuck you, I’m gay-acting.